Why the Self-Help Industry Is Not Changing the World.
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I grew up reading the teen versions of some of the most popular personal and professional development books of our time. How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. The Secret to Teen Power. I had a life coach for a Dad, and I learned to question everything, to my parents’ and teachers’ dismay.
I wanted truth, motives, understanding, and reasons for why our world is the way it is.
As I grew older and asked more questions, I became obsessed about the social and environmental injustices of our current and past existence. In 6th grade, it was the Holocaust. In 10th grade, it was Human Trafficking. I’ve studied up on body-shaming, the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, gun violence, modern-day racism, reproductive rights, animal rights, colonization, etc.
I’m no expert on any of it, but as I’ve learned more, my heart has continued to break open.
The thing that has been the most frustrating and concerning for me is how seemingly disconnected the personal growth industry is from the work of getting justice, even though the idea of If you change your life, you can change the world is deeply embedded within so many popular self-help brands and communities. Justice work and growth work collided within me like two cars crashing into each other at 70 mph. It still does. The cognitive dissonance was too real, and it felt like I was two different people. The coach and the activist.
My first blatant experience of this was in my second year of college, where I was forced to come to terms with the rampant police brutality in the United States. Within a span of weeks, this country was told that neither families of Eric Garner and Mike Brown would receive justice for their murders. I also found out about the unjust murders of Aiyana Jones and Rekia Boyd — no justice. And it was right around this time when 12-year-old Tamir Rice was killed on sight while playing in the park. This was the first time I really allowed myself to feel the deep rage and grief that comes along with being black in the US. For weeks, in the midst of finals season, I spent most of my time crying and staying up to date on the latest information on social media.
I was following many activists, as well as coaches and healers, on Twitter. I would look at my timeline and see updates from protests, news articles, commentary on this pressing issue, and sprinkled in between, I would see quotes like:
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up 60 seconds of peace of mind.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
As if nothing was happening right outside their doors. As if my anger about these injustices wasn’t as important as my peace of mind. As if the reason for my anger wasn’t real or valid. As if everything would be okay if I’d just let go and think positively.
The blaring silence I witnessed, from the very people who say their work is for the good of the world, was stunning.
That silence has led me onto a path that I’ll never get off of. A path that encourages and supports the making of noise, the questioning of the aspects of our world that is not up to our standards, and the disruption of systems that do not serve us as a whole.
To the coaches, healers, guides, mentors and overall do-gooders of the world who don’t want to bring politics into your work, consider this:
Your work could bring massive sustainable change to many lives, families, and communities, but it won’t if you don’t critically look at the social context that you’re working within.
The problems you help solve for your clients are most often symptoms of a much deeper and widespread systemic problem that we must get to the root of. You say you want to change the world, but what is it, in the world, that you want to change? You’ve got to name it to tame it.
Our socioeconomic and environmental issues affect every single one of the people you work with, either actively or passively.
As you’re working to create change in our world, your silence about these issues actively works against you. Your political neutrality says, “I’m totally comfortable with these injustices. Let them continue.” And if you find yourself being very vocal about some issues and MIA about others, ask yourself why.
Learning to take personal responsibility over your own life does not absolve you from your social responsibility.
Your isolated happiness and success do not serve anyone, including you. We are not meant to thrive in isolation. We need each other to do well. If there are people down the street from you who are not well, you’re not well. If there are people across the world who aren’t well, you’re not well. If our Earth is not well, we are not well.
Self-love and self-care will not change the world if we are not also loving and supporting toward each other. Your personal freedom will not change the world unless you acknowledge the backs on which you stand in order to have that freedom.
Whose freedom gets taken away so that you can experience a liberated life? Who suffers so that you can practice self-care? If you’re free and others aren’t, are you really free? What is freedom if only a few have access to it?
One of my favorite quotes comes from activist Lilla Watson, where she says:
“If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. If you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”
Read that again, and let it sink in a little bit more.
I write this because my liberation depends on yours, and yours depends on mine.
And so I have two questions for you:
* What change do you really wish to see in your world?
* Is your work and/or life supporting that change?
Let me know in the comments below. Let’s talk.
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Andréa Ranae is passionate about challenging everyone, including herself, to know yourself, know your power and to use it in service of all people. She loves supporting leaders to amplify their impact by infusing personal growth/social justice principles into their work and life. She does this work through writing, teaching, studying, coaching, workshops and her podcast. You can connect with her on Facebook and Twitter, or via her website.
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