Take some time to think about a daily routine that will work for you... Plan it out, then stay on it... The choice is yours.
Cry, stomp your feet, go to the gym, but be a dork too, fall in love, not with a girl but with yourself, find out the kind of man you can be.
The shadow self is the side of us the ego subconsciously chooses to ignore in order to survive. This usually looks like ignoring working through trauma.