Patanjali recognized this inherent limitation. In his often quoted and sourced Yoga Sutras, he states in one of the opening verses that Yoga is 'chitta vritti nirodha', roughly translating to 'the restraining or end of all fluctuations of the mind'.
God, do what you want with me! That is all that can be said. Here I am, Lord, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Send me where you want me to go, to the ones who need me most.
Transforming the lies and betrayal was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I had to rebuild the sense of who I was and my value to my own life.
Division denies what we feel instinctively and yearn for deeply, though we resist it politically. Even so, we routinely sense our connection to something greater than ourselves. We experience it as separate only because of ignorance and circumstances.
With trust, hard work, and open communication, marriages can survive fundamental changes in one, or both, of the spouses. Marriage is a two-way street.
To remove the veil of avidya or ignorance and false perception is a goal of Yoga practice. Similarly, removing the false veil of patriarchy which has us value only one perception of the world, the Masculine, is a goal of the feminist.
I am tired of cheaply patching my love void with superficial smiles and empty hugs, dry lovemaking that doesn’t even know what respect and admiration are.