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Why Staying Present With Loss Is An Act Of Devotion.

I did not engage in this practice to prove something to myself or anyone else. I was not interested in flexing my spiritual muscles. I did it for Jenny. My willingness to stay present through this process was an act of devotion. By leaning into the horror and yielding to the sorrow, by ...

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The Surface of My Mother, the Shadow of My Father: I Am Digby’s Daughter.

I am not defined by my father’s failings, nor my mother’s feelings about them. I am free to embrace the aspects I choose.

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Replace ‘It Gets Better With Time’ With ‘This Sucks.’

Because time is just a reminder of all the days ahead that she won’t be here. All the days ahead that I will miss her more. Instead, tell me that you know it sucks. Because it does. That’s the truth. This sucks. Plain and simple. This is awful and horrible and heartbreaking. I need you to ...

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Grief: An Unruly Companion.

As painful as this experience was, it was also the most sacred moment of my life. How grateful I felt to have been a witness to his life and his death. And how unsettling to be in the presence of death and yet feel so alive, so broken with sorrow and yet so riveted by the magnitude and majesty ...

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On Loving A Daughter Made Of Fire.

When your heart aches with worry, remember through the flames, you survived. Through the heartache and the fear, you survived. Through the bitterness and the soul searching, you survived.

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100 Things: A List To Live By For My Daughter, My Inner Child, And Yours.

I can’t dry my mother’s infinite tears or stop her from swallowing those pills, any more than I can protect my daughter from all the cruelties of this world… but, I honor them both by living.