I have been able to show up as myself, be honest about who I am and my expectations, and attract the people I want instead of the people I feel I deserve.
The issue with detaching is... the feelings. Feelings are a funny but wicked thing. With these feelings, we build... expectations of supposed outcomes.
I’m sure that we weren’t really meant to be, and that you won’t need me where you stand. Actually you never did, because what you were imagining about me wasn’t real, it was an illusion of yours or the picture of what you wanted me to be. And I’m sure that I won’t need you on the other side ...
Celebrate you.
Not just the achievements.
Nor merely the survivals.
But the calm and the mundane as well.
For it is the canvas holding you
the space upon which you are (being) painted.
... instead of speaking her truth she stuffed it back down deep down inside she couldn't bear it knowing they were wrong about her
about who she really was...
We all have things about ourselves that we don’t particularly like. But if we can look at those parts of us and understand why they’re there, we can see why we’re triggered in certain situations, and start to free ourselves from the unconscious patterns that we otherwise play out over and over again.
Loving someone means committing to each other that no matter what, you’re willing to make something work. That it may not turn out as pretty as you hoped, or that expectations might not be met, but that doesn’t matter because what’s important is that you both are there, right now, for each ...