What if rather than making it a personal, individualized, thing, looking at how we are not enough and we need to change, we need to look at society, at the system? What if we need to take the conversation further afield, away from ourselves and into the community in which we live?
I believe the shame is here for many reasons, too many to name in one article, but one of them being a deep-rooted systemic fear that if we all lived our lives connecting with each other from a place of love and openness, compassion and respect, rather than the fear, criticism, and judgment ...
Even if you discuss ideas and content that books have been written about, it will never be the same thing as when it is expressed through the original being that you are. When you peel off the voices of others that have accumulated and calcified, you bring out your own voice.
Still, several of those incidents have remained in my memory -- the time a trusted friend told me in all seriousness to “lay off the groceries,” or the time a man I was intimate with suggested I go to the gym, or when my mother told me that when I sat down on the edge of the bed, I created more ...