F*ck: No Other Word Says It Better.
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I struggled with it.
Yesterday, when the flow was right and each letter appeared to be falling into the correct order, and as each word seemed to propel me along, I stopped.
A dead stop, an unmitigated stop. An unintended stop; it was more than a pause, more than a period.
A stop, a full stop; a debilitating stop.
One word .
One word was all that was stopping me from continuing with a deeply personal poem I’d been working on. It was a one-syllable word at that.
I didn’t want to use it.
I searched for alternatives, but nothing else worked. Not one other word, or a series thereof, could substitute for the word I had used. No other word could convey the rage, or the frustration, in the exact way this word did.
Fuck.
The F-word: it’s one of those words. It’s one of those words that traditionally raise eyebrows. It’s one of those words you are told, as a kid, you shouldn’t say. It was a bad word. I remember my brother said fuck one time, in the company of my parents. It was the only time. I recall mom’s eyes bugging out, and dad always had that look when he turned angry.
I learned then I wasn’t going to make the same mistake, ever. Fuck, no way.
Yes, it’s one of those words, one of those fucking words there are really no replacements for, certainly in certain circumstances and depending, of course, on its usage. Check your thesaurus; in many or most (probably all), there are no offerings. I’ve got Roget’s Super Thesaurus 4th Edition on my desk, and it’s not in there.
It’s not even offered as a synonym under intercourse (which casts doubt upon the book jacket’s Amazingly Comprehensive claim).
I don’t use it often, not as often as I should or feel like (more in dialogue than description), and it really has lost its shock appeal; you hear it often in movies and music.
It’s one of those words.
It’s one of those words that has been censored, avoided, painted over, hushed, and stifled for generations. It still appears on public broadcasters’ list of words you cannot say on the airwaves. It’s one of those words that will get bleeped out. It’s one of those words that would get your mouth washed out with soap, or get you sent to the principal’s office.
It’s a bad word.
It’s one of those words there are no real replacements for, like peace (and I realize the folks at Roget have listed a handful of options for this word but, when you think about it. there are no synonyms, not in the true sense of the word).
Now fuck is in the dictionary, noun and verb (Oxford here). Sexual intercourse, mess about, fool around, and, ah, there it is: expressing anger (I knew it fit into what I was writing). It’s no longer listed as slang, as it once was, but it is listed as a highly taboo word.
Come on, fuck off: highly taboo?
It might have been taboo, at one time, like even before my grandparents were procreating. Yes, there are times when the word just doesn’t seem appropriate (but they did, by my calculation, at least four times), but these days almost everybody uses the word, from politicians to sweet little Grade-3 students and their mothers.
You hear it all the time; sometimes it is not well-used, and other times it is placed properly. A lot of times it’s as common as um or uh or like — like, you know, like, like that (and I’m sure you do).
It is a word that means so much, and can say so much. It is a word like love (and if you love, you are probably going to fuck, but you don’t have to love to fuck, then it’s just sex, and if it’s just sex, then you are going to fuck a lot… but I digress).
I’ve heard fuck described as the Swiss Army knife of words: a word for all purposes (perhaps not all occasions). It’s so utilitarian, with many functions.
It describes rage (fuck you) and joy or happiness (fuck yeah), sheer disappointment (oh fuck), sexuality and sensuality (depending on the accent), be it a mistake or a misfit (fuck up), and for a one-syllable word there are so many inflections which make it sound bigger.
It is a useful word, in the right circumstances, and it is a wholeheartedly purposeful word.
Fuck is a great curse word. It could, or I can suppose, be a hurtful word. But there are many and more hateful words in the vernacular that are publicly acceptable and are used far too often.
I can think of words associated with any of the -isms (racism, sexism, fascism, capitalism) that I find more offensive, and you can say those words on television and get away with it (it still doesn’t make it right).
It should probably be used more than it is, but it may never be. There are far too many stigmas, stereotypes and old wives’ tales that will continue to silence the word. Sadly.
This world has made progress in so many ways. Times have changed: women can vote (at least on my continent), my gay friends can marry, and even prime time television images can graphically illustrate the actions involved when fucking (they just can’t show certain parts).
Still you can’t say fuck, not everywhere, not when you want to or need to. Not always. It’s a bad word. Fuck.
But yesterday, despite my best efforts to find another, it was a good word.
It was the right word.
Fuck yeah.
*****
J.G. Lewis is a writer and photographer, a dreamer and wanderer, father and brother (an orphan of sorts), living in the Greater Toronto area. Formerly an award-winning journalist, he now writes fiction and poetry. He practices Bikram Yoga, doesn’t take the camera out enough, and enjoys the snap, crackle and pop of music on vinyl. You can read more of J.G. on his website, follow him on Facebook, catch his daily breath on Twitter, or contact him by email.
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