We can access, in our emptiness, our deep inner knowing underneath the dramas of the mind and the traumas of the past. Then we can find a space to truly create our lives from.
It isn't easy to release the past or anxiety, and it can take a long time to shift it, but from the very first moment of awareness of it, it loses its level of power and grip, and things are never the same again.
My shame tells me I am wrong, not enough, not perfect. It often reminds me of my past mistakes, the times in my life that I have not been seen, chosen, accepted, understood or validated. When I try to expand, it asks me, "Who do you think you are?"
My inner masculine needs to see my inner feminine's treasure. And she needs to value and trust his too. He has been absent on many levels, not standing up in his power and being there to consistently hold and catch my inner feminine when she falls.
A key reason the masculine in me is so wounded that he can't step up and catch my feminine when she falls is because he was not allowed to do his job when he most needed to in my life. Instead of being my inner hero, he became my wounded critic. He was castrated.